Goodbye Hello Kitty...

Happy New Year... oops I'm one month late...

But as always, it's better late than never... Been really busy but I believe no matter how busy one is, one must always make time for your loved ones.... so, that is something I have been doing. :p

But sadly, I will be spending less time with a loved one. I will be seeing less of that loved one and she'll be greatly missed...

My sister..

She's on her way to Amsterdam as I'm blogging.. 13 hours flight.. 6 months long overseas exchange programme.. Lucky uni 'kids'. Nowadays, overseas exchange seems to be the norm. She'll be touring parts of Europe even before I do!!!!!!! Paris, Spain, London etc.. ggggrrhhhh... But I'm happy for her.

There are lots of good qualities in my sister and there's nothing more I can ask for... She's sensible, holy, filial, sensitive and caring... She's silly in a cute way, yet intelligent in a whole lot more. She's always obliging as whenever I need help in tallying marks or counting words for the summary section, she'll stay up with me till it's done (oooh... come to think of it.. who's gonna help me count the Mid-yr exam summary word count now... Hmm.. must search for alternatives.. keke)

At the airport just now...

When we were at the airport, I saw many people sending their loved ones off.. Kisses, hugs, handshakes... and in the midst of all the partings... I remembered Love Actually... A movie that meant a lot to me.... A movie that starts and ends with the various scenes at the arrival and departure halls of an airport... scenes of love, friendship and kinship... love that actually exists, love that actually lasts......

A flood of emotions overcame me. Didn't think I'll miss her that much. After all, she'll be back soon...

But after sharing the same room with her for so many years, sharing clothes and accessories since we started buying our own and sharing thoughts about everything under the sun, moon, stars, rainbows, I can't help but miss her even though it'll be just for 6 months.

Before she left... I gave her a tight hug.. told her to have fun, take care, and I'll miss you (and in my mind..don't take drugs.. afterall it's legal to take Marijuana in Amsterdam.. ) And then I sms her.. Love Ya..

We almost teared... silly...

As I walked away from the airport, I remembered how important kinship is. While many people agree with that, many too fail to show their love to their family members, keeping to themselves their real feelings perhaps due to shyness, or lack of communication or sometimes because we Asians are not used to showing our love for each other openly.

Sometimes, we may even have negative feelings towards the very people whom we should be loving...

Hence, when a child told me today that she HATES her mother.... I was shocked.. I may not know the full story .. she tried telling me.. nevertheless I told her this...

"You may be angry with your mother... but you can't HATE your mother..
Your mother may be loving you in a way that you are not used to, but you can't HATE your mother..
Your mother may be controlling you and you can't stand it... but still you can't HATE your mother..
And after all that she has done for you... do your think you can hate your mother?

Hate is too strong a word.... Don't say that especially deep down you know you don't mean it... "

She didn't respond.. but the tears in her eyes gave me the answers....

Every family is different. There are some families where the members can love each other without hope and agenda..without judgement and prejudices. They will always be there for one another. However, there are some families that are having more struggles than others but when that is the case, we cannot give up on building or repairing the relationships within the family....

After all, Love Actually exists in all families if we all try. Love Actually exists.... period.

Goodbye.. my Hello Kitty... See you in July.. the 7th month...